The Definition Of Bullying: We Need A Starting Point

The Definition Of Bullying

We need a Starting Point


Throughout my 27 year career in Law Enforcement thus far, and as an Internet/SM safety advocate, I have found that many people utilize the term “bullying” to describe undesirable behaviour between two parities that can be physical, verbal, social emotional or cyber in nature.  I believe however, that the word “bullying” is being overused and diluted, given that any undesirable behaviour experienced by a youth, is commonly being categorized or identified as bullying by parents, educators, counsellors, law enforcement and the youth themselves. Why does this happen ?… because here in Canada, and even in North America, we do not have one agreed upon definition for the word “bullying”; it means different things to different people. I believe that if we are going to effectively deal with true bullying behavior, or what I like to call “Peer Aggression”,  then we Canadians need to have an agreed upon definition that anyone and everyone can use as a starting point to define what it is, and very recently the Supreme Court of Canada (SCC) has created a blueprint for such a definition.

In a 2012 SCC case known as A.B vs Bragg, the court defined bullying as:

“behaviour that is intended to cause, or should be known to cause, fear, intimidation, humiliation, distress or other forms of harm to another person‟s body, feelings, self- esteem, reputation or property. Bullying can be direct or indirect, and can take place by written, verbal, physical or electronic means, or any other form of expression.”

Based upon the above noted SCC decision, I have created a definition that I believe is congruent with both current case law here in Canada, and some of the definitions that many North America experts in the field of bullying often cite.  So here is my proposed definition of “bullying” that I use in my presentations:

“It is Peer Aggression, either direct or indirect, often involving a power imbalance, that can be delivered verbally, physically, by a writing or an electronic/digital means, or by any other form of expression, to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to cause, or should have reasonably been know to cause fear, intimidation, humiliation, distress or other forms of harm, which can be experienced by the intended target emotionally, psychologically, and/or  physically”

With this definition, we can now apply any questionable behaviour to the essential elements of the above noted.

The Essential Elements Of This Definition:

  • It’s violence, thus why I use the term “peer aggression”
  • Can be focused directly or indirectly to the intended target
  • Usually involves a power imbalance between aggressor and target
  • Can be delivered face-to-face or by proxy verbally, non-verbally, physically or via written word or electronic or digital means or any other form of expression
  • Used to support deliberated, repeated and hostile behaviour by an individual or group
  • Intended to cause or should have reasonably been known to cause fear, intimidation, humiliation, distress or other forms of harm
  • The peer aggression effects a target emotionally, psychologically and/or physically


This definition, in my opinion, allows anyone to separate peer aggression (bullying) , where there is often a power imbalance,  from that of rude, mean, or disturbing behaviour, or what some teens call “drama”, where there is often no power imbalance . This is an important distinction to understand, because the way we cope with rude, mean or disturbing behaviour, is totally different from how we cope with peer aggression (bullying).

To help parents, educators, counsellors, administrators and law enforcement decide if an identified behavior falls into the above noted bullying definition, a British Columbia educator and principal, Cathal Walsh, created a tool, that I highly endorse, that he calls “The Bullying Equation”.  In this equation, if “yes” can be answered to the following six questions, then you are probably dealing with peer aggression (bullying), rather than rude, mean or disturbing behavior:

1) Is the hurtful behaviour repetitive? Typically Peer Aggression is not a “once off” phenomenon. Usually, peer aggression develops over time with an escalating number of negative, repetitive behaviors either on-line or off-line. 


2) Is there an apparent desire to emotionally, physically and/or physically hurt others or to cause fear, intimidation, humiliation, distress or other forms of harm to another person‟s body, feelings, self- esteem, reputation or property on the part of the suspected peer aggressor? In other words, is the aggressor’s behaviour malicious or is the hurt being experienced as a byproduct of their unruly conduct? 


3) Is the suspected peer aggressor’s desire to hurt followed with a deliberate hurtful action either on-line or off-line? This can include pranks, teasing, and name calling.


4) Is their evidence of enjoyment on the part of the aggressor? This can include bragging and seeking social recognition from peers for the negative behaviour. 


5) Is there a power imbalance? Is the aggressor older, bigger, or have assigned authority of some kind including positional rule within the social pecking order of the peer group. 


6) Is there a sense of being oppressed on the part of the target? Loss of appetite and sleep, not wanting to go to school, a loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed are some of the warning signs. If a child “feels” they are being Peer Aggressed they should be listened to and the situation thoroughly reviewed.


I believe that Cathal’s “Bully Equation” is a great litmus test that we can apply to any unwanted/questionable behaviour, to help us adults make a decision as to whether the behavior reported to us, or observed is in fact bullying, or  rather just rude, mean or disturbing behavior.

Again, I believe that as a country, we need a definition that all Canadians can agree upon and utilize to identify what “bullying” is, and more importantly, is not.  With this definition, we can now move forward looking for desirable ways to cope with both bullying behavior, and other concerning behaviour that is more rude, mean or disturbing in nature.

Cerebral Food for thought


PS: what do you think about this definition…..send me an email